Telling the Truth is Necessary

Our intimate relationships are designed to help us get ahead in life. People, who are lucky enough fall in love, come out ahead in terms of their health, wealth, and emotional well-being.

Individuals in close relationships live longer, enjoy better health, obtain more resources, report being happier, and are more satisfied than individuals who fail to find a companion.

In order to obtain the benefits that intimate relationships provide, it is necessary for two people to know each other well. It is not possible to create beneficial outcomes in a relationship without some degree of intimacy (knowledge about each other). Romantic partners need to be “experts” on each other. To create rewards people need to understand their partners “inside and out.”

People gain such knowledge about their partners by spending a lot of time with them, watching how they react in different situations, and by being honest with each other.

People disclose a lot to their spouses. Intimate partners tell each other who they are, what they like and dislike, their hopes and fears, their past experiences, and their future goals. Sharing such knowledge is critical because without it people would not be able to get ahead in life.

Our desire to have a husband or wife understand "who we are" and "where we are coming from" is driven by our emotions. And, these feelings drive us to tell our intimate partners the truth.

Our desire to be understood becomes even more intense as we get closer to each other. The more you tie your fate to someone, the more important it is for that person to understand who you are. There is an important benefit to having someone close to you "know you." The rewards you are able to create in your relationship are tied to being intimate and sharing yourself with a partner.

This explains why we get so frustrated and upset when we think that someone close to us does not understand us. Try it out. If you really want to upset a romantic partner, one of the best ways is to pretend that you don’t get where he/she is coming from, that you don’t understand his/her point of view, that you don’t know what he/she is talking about, or that you don’t get his/her jokes. People go absolutely crazy when they think that someone close to them does not "get them."

Overall, enormous benefits come from having a close relational partner know who you are. Accordingly, telling the truth is essential. Simply put, we are designed to share our lives with people and be honest with them.

People just a human. Sometimes we make people happy, sometimes people make us sad. As seniors says, what goes around comes around.

19 Dec 1979

Adakalanya sebagai seorang lelaki anda masih tidak mengenali diri atau peribadi sendiri. Hanya rakan-rakan di sekeliling yang ikhlas untuk memberitahu anda akan menyatakan setiap kelebihan mahupun kelebihan diri anda. Namun, apakah anda mempunyai rakan yang sanggup berterus-terang? Ada...tetapi sangat limited. Reason? Takut kawan kecik hati. For me, honest and transparent is a weapon for long friendship.

Memandangkan hari lahir ku akan tiba beberapa hari saja lagi...aku persembahkan mengenai diri aku melalui permerhatian kawan2 secara direct or indirectly.

Aku seorang yang suka bergaul , suka hidup yang baik dan berpoya . Bagi mereka, aku adalah insan yang paling romantik, menarik , mudah suka bergaul dengan seorang yang suka kepada hiburan dan berjalan ke tempat tempat yang menarik seperti melancong .
Mukaku dikatakan panjang, dengan dahi agak tinggi tapi sempit, hidungnya agak mancung dan ketika suka hidung itu menjadi kembang and bermata sepet!

Dari segi berpakaian pula, mereka mengatkan aku suka memakai pakaian yang kasual dan longgar and seorang lelaki yang agak boros. Tapi kalau jika tidak berhati-hati , mungkin terlibat dalam perjudian. Hahaha...kelakarkan tapi itulah pendapat orang!

Aku dilihat suka jika dapat berteman dengan wanita dan mudah pula jatuh hati .Tapi dia tidak suka terikat dalam masa yang panjang. Orang seperti aku memang sukakan pujian dan penghargaan. Of course I love it. Compliment for the rest of my life! Dan sendiri sukakan kebebasan dalam kehidupan! Free like a bird!

Pemarah! Yesss, part of my life! Well aku tak nafikan aku suka marah tapi bukanla melulu kan nak marah and maki orang. Tapi lau bengap and bodoh tahap dewa dewi lagi ke-tujuh and neraka tahap paling bawah, of course la aku marah. Opsss! Bukan apa, marah sure la bersebab kan. Just think about it.

Hanya beberapa hari saje lagi, hari bahagia ku akan tiba tapi apakah ade kebahagan dalam kehidupan aku? Doakan kebahagian ku...