Telling the Truth is Necessary

Our intimate relationships are designed to help us get ahead in life. People, who are lucky enough fall in love, come out ahead in terms of their health, wealth, and emotional well-being.

Individuals in close relationships live longer, enjoy better health, obtain more resources, report being happier, and are more satisfied than individuals who fail to find a companion.

In order to obtain the benefits that intimate relationships provide, it is necessary for two people to know each other well. It is not possible to create beneficial outcomes in a relationship without some degree of intimacy (knowledge about each other). Romantic partners need to be “experts” on each other. To create rewards people need to understand their partners “inside and out.”

People gain such knowledge about their partners by spending a lot of time with them, watching how they react in different situations, and by being honest with each other.

People disclose a lot to their spouses. Intimate partners tell each other who they are, what they like and dislike, their hopes and fears, their past experiences, and their future goals. Sharing such knowledge is critical because without it people would not be able to get ahead in life.

Our desire to have a husband or wife understand "who we are" and "where we are coming from" is driven by our emotions. And, these feelings drive us to tell our intimate partners the truth.

Our desire to be understood becomes even more intense as we get closer to each other. The more you tie your fate to someone, the more important it is for that person to understand who you are. There is an important benefit to having someone close to you "know you." The rewards you are able to create in your relationship are tied to being intimate and sharing yourself with a partner.

This explains why we get so frustrated and upset when we think that someone close to us does not understand us. Try it out. If you really want to upset a romantic partner, one of the best ways is to pretend that you don’t get where he/she is coming from, that you don’t understand his/her point of view, that you don’t know what he/she is talking about, or that you don’t get his/her jokes. People go absolutely crazy when they think that someone close to them does not "get them."

Overall, enormous benefits come from having a close relational partner know who you are. Accordingly, telling the truth is essential. Simply put, we are designed to share our lives with people and be honest with them.

People just a human. Sometimes we make people happy, sometimes people make us sad. As seniors says, what goes around comes around.

19 Dec 1979

Adakalanya sebagai seorang lelaki anda masih tidak mengenali diri atau peribadi sendiri. Hanya rakan-rakan di sekeliling yang ikhlas untuk memberitahu anda akan menyatakan setiap kelebihan mahupun kelebihan diri anda. Namun, apakah anda mempunyai rakan yang sanggup berterus-terang? Ada...tetapi sangat limited. Reason? Takut kawan kecik hati. For me, honest and transparent is a weapon for long friendship.

Memandangkan hari lahir ku akan tiba beberapa hari saja lagi...aku persembahkan mengenai diri aku melalui permerhatian kawan2 secara direct or indirectly.

Aku seorang yang suka bergaul , suka hidup yang baik dan berpoya . Bagi mereka, aku adalah insan yang paling romantik, menarik , mudah suka bergaul dengan seorang yang suka kepada hiburan dan berjalan ke tempat tempat yang menarik seperti melancong .
Mukaku dikatakan panjang, dengan dahi agak tinggi tapi sempit, hidungnya agak mancung dan ketika suka hidung itu menjadi kembang and bermata sepet!

Dari segi berpakaian pula, mereka mengatkan aku suka memakai pakaian yang kasual dan longgar and seorang lelaki yang agak boros. Tapi kalau jika tidak berhati-hati , mungkin terlibat dalam perjudian. Hahaha...kelakarkan tapi itulah pendapat orang!

Aku dilihat suka jika dapat berteman dengan wanita dan mudah pula jatuh hati .Tapi dia tidak suka terikat dalam masa yang panjang. Orang seperti aku memang sukakan pujian dan penghargaan. Of course I love it. Compliment for the rest of my life! Dan sendiri sukakan kebebasan dalam kehidupan! Free like a bird!

Pemarah! Yesss, part of my life! Well aku tak nafikan aku suka marah tapi bukanla melulu kan nak marah and maki orang. Tapi lau bengap and bodoh tahap dewa dewi lagi ke-tujuh and neraka tahap paling bawah, of course la aku marah. Opsss! Bukan apa, marah sure la bersebab kan. Just think about it.

Hanya beberapa hari saje lagi, hari bahagia ku akan tiba tapi apakah ade kebahagan dalam kehidupan aku? Doakan kebahagian ku...

Star Award at Euphoria Sunway Lagoon

Last Tuesday @ 4th November 2008...Star Awards at Euphoria!
Hahaha...I've been invited by hotel even I just few months joined my "beloved" company.
But oklah kan...everything was OK but the the performances are sucks except the violin session. Ala ala Vanessa Mae Malaysia...She so good in violin.

As usual, this is a best place to hangout and find new contacts, friends, partners and enemies! Huhu... I met my ex colleagues and I was so excited and proud! "Hye Fawzi, you nampak lain. Makin kurus and bergaya" Wakaka... jangan la jealous kan dengan statement ni.

Well, but I never use any slimming gel like monster used. Haiz...any best products can't fit monster's skin. All products tested in animals and only for human use not for monster. Oppsss lupa, gergasi pun nak lawa gak....masalahnya lawa ke nanti... wkakaka...kih kih kih.... Sorry dear, I purposely kutuk you...

Hye hye...back to real life! Mmmmm
Oh ya...Star Award! We reached there at 7 pm! Then we took photo with ala2 Oscar background dengan few hoteliers. And I was so excited when I saw lots of photographers focus to us. We walk kat red carpet and I was thinking, how to give best smile ever, or just a fake smile? Then, I just imagine I am a famous celebrities. What to do ... at least my brain can function last minutes. Not like others, suddenly got headache! Life is unfair ...

Let's get the party started. As usual awards recognition given to all most supporter agents. The highest award gies to Asia Experience! We can't deny their sales performance as they're very good in Malaysia currently. By the way, yeah, my colleague just received lucky draw. Oklah dari got nothing kan?! This party supposed to be end at 11pm but they still open for dance floor's session. I was so nice ever! If I am alone, sure I pun get dance tapi my boss ikut kan, so paham2 saje la kan...

For me, this kind of event is very good to us. It gave us more exposure and experience how to mingle and build rapport among us in this industry. Do not be like certain peoples, so lazy and always give excuses. If this happen continuously, then how to improve our life. Think about it. Life is short... experience it!

Pogie @ Sagittarius

Mmmm... bad day again in my "beloved office"?
Should arrange "doa selamat" here I guess. But it will be fine? I don't think so :P This year, many bad luck happen to me. Let's check out my zodiac for this year.

Me as a Sagittarians have a positive outlook on life, are full of enterprise, energy, versatility, adventurousness and eagerness to extend experience beyond the physically familiar. This is a right thing but I've made a wrong choice work here. Haiz....Now I am stuck. As a Sagi, I enjoy travelling and exploration, the more so because Sagi minds are constantly open to new dimensions of thought.

Can it be accepted zodiacs? We are basically ambitious and optimistic, and continue to be so even when their hopes are dashed. We strongly idealistic natures can also suffer many disappointments without being affected. Any arguement so far? Sagi also honorable, honest, trustworthy, truthful, generous and sincere, with a passion for justice. But, why they treat me like this? I am a black of the family. Furthermore we are usually on the side of the underdog in society they will fight for any cause they believe to be just, and are prepared to be rebellious. Just wait and see....

Love is wonderful for many, but it's a bit of an enigma for the Sagittarians like myself. Sagittarians, love often sex, plain and simple. Hahaha... I like sex! Not often but regularly. Sagis also are known as good kisser! Yes I believe in this...Our partners normally will wait the next kiss from us. Can you imagine that.

Sagi is a not shy person, and like the half beast/half human that he/she represents, is quite the sexual animal. In other words, these folks are always ready! That is a Sagis life then. Let move on to next love story. But, love can be hard for the Sagis. For this reason, a friendship first is often the best way to encourage a love relationship with these folk. Do you agree? Well...this is my life! No matter what people say about me, pogie is pogie.

I miss my best friend

I miss my best friend! Haiz... what a critical subject...

I met this best friend of mine almost 2 yrs ago while attending a chatting session. We was lost contact almost 1 year before I found his email in my mailbox. I am so lucky, when he has replied my mail. Since that day, we really have lot of things in common and since then we've made a promise to become best friends forever. His changed from naive person and become pleasant look. We used to hang out ALL the time. Watching movies, walking, chilling and always care each other even it is a personal issue. We always compete each other who watched the latest movie first and show a ticket as a prove. It sound childish but it works and it makes our friendship strong. . Now I hardly ever see him because our lives have taken different paths. ARRRGGGGGGHH. It makes me upset.

Still I am not sure where did I go wrong in my friendship..I was always a sincere best friend with him... when his cried I was there to shoulder it ,...when his was happy I was there to take her more up... suddenly everything happened... He is not reply any single message that I had sent to him. Even when his online, he never buzz me at all... I had tried few times to poke and buzz him, but no response at all!

I was HOPING he will call me or text me to say hello. Yes, just say hello. It enough to make me happy, unfortunately I just my dream forever I guess... This friendship has ended. I believe in God. What goes around comes around...

I still have more friends around me. More caring, good listener, helping etc. To all my friends, I love you so much and you all guys is meaningful to me and I will remember for the rest of my life!

Stupid & Dumb!

Media Marcomm... How you define this phrase.

According to Wikipedia Mass communication is the term used to describe the academic study of the various means by which individuals and entities relay information through mass media to large segments of the population at the same time. It is usually understood to relate to newspaper & magazine publishing, radio, television & film, as these are used both for disseminating news and for advertising.

If you are involve in this field where it fall under hospitality industry, that person should be aggressive, motivate, creative, customer skills and also good contact. Am I right?

But in this company, all the above methods are not apply at all. As long as you can “bodek”, yes you can survive here until you die! All newcomers & junior staffs at that department are sucks & dumb forever. I hate them. Seriously I hate them plus their manager. As a manager, can't you control or manage all your STUPID friends?

If ex-staffs can call hotel to ask complimentary room, why not to this bunch of people. Are they hobbits or smegol originally? I do not understand what happen in this company. They're too manja. Ex-staffs can do all tasks and take their own initiative to do so. Why they can't?! If you're really fool plus stupid, do not apply for MarComm post! They're only suitable work at farm or toilet. Sume “busuk”. Fakkittt!

I can't deal anymore with people asking idiotic questions that don't even make sense. It's so stupid and it wastes more time than I have. That, and I am sick to death of people trying to sound clever by inserting jargon into every third sentence WHEN THEY DON'T EVEN USE IT CORRECTLY. I could never be a teacher they must be driven half-mad by hopeless cases every day.

I call people stupid only when they express their stupidity openly for everyone to see. In such a case, it seems to me that the person has no problem with everyone else knowing that she is stupid. I don't take particular pleasure in that but sometimes it is necessary.

GOD help me... I cannot stand here with bunch of cows and piggy....daaaa....

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Life is not fair

Today is my boring day....Haiz... why I don't have any mood? I have no idea at all.
As I know, I just come to work for the seek of work. No interest at all and no motivation at all.
I feel that I am black sheep in this unit. Why I said so... I don't have the specific answer but this is what I feel now.

Sometimes, we spend a lot of time lamenting over how unfair life is and how we got the short end of the stick. We can be stuck in this unproductive conversation for days, weeks, months and even years. Sometimes, we are so bothered by unfairness that we start to complain to others about the short end of the stick and what is has done to us. New staff? Are you trying to be hero too? Please! Do didn't know the politics scenario here. I more worst then Malaysian Politics! The sucking sound is deafening and the illusion is created that we are stuck in this very bad place.

What would be the fun in that? If you want to truly live, move pass the pursuit of fairness and opt for the pursuit of fabulous. Fabulous means that you take a bumpy and imperfect ride, but it can be scenic. Every experience is data you need to make new choices, some big and some small, that take you down different paths, roads and canyons. You meet folks along the way that are contributors, supporters, detractors and extractors. Yeah, but this is office specifically, there is lot of personal competitors.

I remember a point in my life where I truly understood how toxic the pursuit of fairness could be. I've always tried to uphold a high standard of ethics and hard, honest work. I really do like almost everything about my job; the good and the bad; the triumphs and the failures. Many days I find that upon awakening, I must remind myself through affirmation - I love my job, I love my job I love my job...but....life is not fair.

I am at a time in my life where I feel I have suffered enough. I have paid for my mistakes; and then some. Just leave me alone and let me live my life in peace. Stop smirking on me. Stop playing games and please let me walk away with some shred of dignity. Life is not fair. I love most things about life, but - many times I catch myself thinking, "why me?"

When I find myself asking, Why ME? -- I remind myself, "YOU - because Life is not fair." Somehow, this is not the answer I want but its not really possible to get your mouth to shut up. I can't walk away from it. I can't pretend not to hear it. I can't stop associating with it. Because if I could, then maybe Life wouldn't be so unfair after all.

Why I still stuck here. The place was okay but the environment are sucks!
Arghhh, God me help me out from here!

Can guys and girls be “just friends”?

What do you think? Can guys and girls just be a friends?

Some people can pull off opposite sex friendships and some people can’t.
For me, yup, they sure can! First and foremost, people are drawn to each other for a variety of reasons and they aren’t always physical. Some people will come to be very close friends, some will be acquaintances, some may even evolve in to enemies, and yes, some will even become love affairs, but no one thing will ever define which category any given person will fall in to for you.

It isn’t defined by race, religion, social standing, looks, intelligence, athletic abilities, the clothes they wear, the things they own or the way they talk, and it isn’t defined by gender. People grow close for complex reasons and that closeness is made stronger by things like having similar values, common goals and shared experiences in life.

Talking about this, most of my friends are girls. What I can say is, 60% of it are girls. And I can admit it if people talking bad about me such playboy, player or even gay. Who cares! Those people are jealous! Why? Because they don't even know about friendship's meaning. It goes to girls as well. Don't look at negative point of view. We need each other, so why people out there keep think negative. You can have these things with anybody regardless of gender and the fact that they are a person of the opposite sex does not mean that a relationship has to be romantic or even physical in nature. A well-rounded secure person is able to have different relationships with different people and get different things out of the relationship without ever deconstructing that relationship down to a gender based stereotype.

In other words not everything in life is about sexual attraction and to suggest that a friendship between a guy and a girl will always be plagued by sexual tensions is naive, sexist and just plain ridiculous!

Yes, yes, yes, guys and girls can be friends. In fact I would be weary of people who don’t have any meaningful politic friendships with people of the opposite sex. Anybody who is comfortable in their own skin won’t choose friends based on something as superficial and unchangeable as gender. If you fall in love to each other, that is a bonus points. If not, take it easy and just make him/her as your good friend. In life, not everything we wish will come true. We must learn to accept faith or destiny.

Most of people outside said, It’s just wrong. Guys and girls can’t relate to each other, they live such different lives. Guys are all about sports and tricks and keeping it real with their boys. Girls are gossips and backstabbers. I can see why a girl may want to be friends with guys because girls are vicious to each other but guys don’t need girls as their friends. If a girl is in your life she’s either a relative or your girlfriend, there’s no need for them anywhere else. Hahaha

So now, judge yourself!

My Favourite song

Today, I would like to talk about favourite song.
Hmm..... favourite song. Well, I have many favourite songs and it usually change with my mood. But right now, I would say my favourite song is A Shoulder to Cry One by Tommy Page. It's a nice and slow emoish song which has a good melody. Some emo songs a pretty mellow but this one is soft but isn't to mellow at the same time.

I fall in love again, I guess (",)


Lyrics....
Life is full of lots of up and downs,
And the distance feels further when you're headed for the ground,
And there is nothing more painful than
to let you're feelings takeyou down,

It's so hard to know the way you feel inside,
When there's many thoughts and feelings that you hide,
But you might feel better if you let me walk with you
by your side,

And when you need a shoulder to cry on,
When you need a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
You won't be alone, cause I'll be there,

I'll be your shoulder to cry on,I'll be there,
I'll be a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,you won't be alone,
cause I'll be there.

All of the times when everything is wrong
And you're feeling like
There's no use going onYou can't give it up
I hope you work it out and carry on
Side by side, With you till the end
I'll always be the one to firmly hold your hand
no matter what is said or done
our love will always continue on

Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on
everyone needs a friend to rely on
When the whole world is gone
you won't be alone cause
I'll be there
I'll be your shoulder to cry on
I'll be there
I'll be the one you rely on
when the whole world's gone
you won't be alone
cause I'll be there!

And when the whole world is gone
You'll always have my shoulder to cry on....

What friend are for?

Some of the benefits of friendship are well-known; some, however, are concealed within the workings of the system in the world.
We all know that there is a deep need for companionship. Not for nothing is solitary confinement considered to be among the harshest of punishments.
But today, there is any sincere friendship in this world?
I can't deny it. Yes, it is but, how much? 10%? 15% maybe.....

But since the human personality is such that we are all influenced with a natural desire for friendship, why should it be necessary for us to be instructed to make friends. Isn't it a little like telling people not to forget to eat? What wisdom should we use.
Authenticity, friendship is sharing, caring, responsibility and respect to each other. Please do not mention, all these feelings comes when we get married. Bullshit! How come we get married if we do not share or caring at first? Unless it is family arrangement, Yes, it can be an excuse.

On the simplest level, we are being taught that it is not enough to have friends, one must choose for himself the right kind of friend---"a good friend." But the more friends the better. Why? Because, in a sense, there is safety in numbers. By that I do not mean that if somebody tries to jump you in the street, you can call on your friends for help. We are talking about friends here, not a gang (",). I love to have my latest friends today. We always keep in touch to each other. We do gather once or twice a month. We sharing and concern waht happen to all of us. And of course gossip, is major factor for us but we're sharing among us. And all gossip is based on facts! So, it can be clasify as discussion. Hehe... This is we called friend. But for others, they like to be a unpaid reporter and spread all stories to unless people. They got nothing to do I guess.

But, I do have various type of friends. Good friend, best friend, sucks friend, fucking friend, actors/actresses friend,backstabber friend and etc. You might think, why I need all those friends? For me, I am a human. Do you?!


Performed with Dionne Warwick, Gladys Knight and Stevie Wonder

And I never thought I'd feel this way
And as far as I'm concerned
I'm glad I got the chance to say
That I do believe I love you

And if I should ever go away
Well then close your eyes and try
To feel the way we do today
And then if you can remember

Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for

Well you came in loving me
And now there's so much more I see
And so by the way I thank you

Oh and then for the times when we're apart
Well then close your eyes and know
The words are coming from my heart
And then if you can remember

Why do many straight people hate gay

Most straight men I met and mingle who hate/dislike gay men feel that way because they are afraid they, themselves, might be gay since it's perfectly normal to have sexual thoughts and feelings about the same sex, but they've been raised to believe it's wrong and should be squelched. They dislike gay men because to them, they are acting 'weak' giving in to those urges.

But in reality, it's themselves they dislike, and their own, misunderstood, attraction to some men.To further complicate matters, many people operate under the mistaken assumption that being gay is all about sex and nothing else. Many people don't understand the same love they feel for their hetero spouse is felt by those who are in gay relationships. So to add to the fear these types of men are sure every gay man within eye shot is lusting after him and planning out how to take him down and rape him. When in reality most gay men are not attracted to straight men and are thinking nothing of the sort.

Thankfully, I no longer have such people in my life. I refuse to associate with anyone who is a racist or homophobe.

It was happen to me before when I was in colleague. Why straight still have a felling like this? Some of them, they hates gay but they "close" with gay. For what? I am not saying I am. But it is happen.

I was thinking these problems that straight guys facing with gays.
1. They have homosexual feelings themselves and don't know how to deal with them.
2. They aren't sure what it means to be a heterosexual man and they feel angry and confused about it.
3. They fear male sexuality in general and the idea of having it directed at them scares them.
4. They are offended because it goes against what they think of as normal and they are the type that can't conceive of a different perspective on normal.

Ask yourself...