Some people can pull off opposite sex friendships and some people can’t.
For me, yup, they sure can! First and foremost, people are drawn to each other for a variety of reasons and they aren’t always physical. Some people will come to be very close friends, some will be acquaintances, some may even evolve in to enemies, and yes, some will even become love affairs, but no one thing will ever define which category any given person will fall in to for you.
It isn’t defined by race, religion, social standing, looks, intelligence, athletic abilities, the clothes they wear, the things they own or the way they talk, and it isn’t defined by gender. People grow close for complex reasons and that closeness is made stronger by things like having similar values, common goals and shared experiences in life.
Talking about this, most of my friends are girls. What I can say is, 60% of it are girls. And I can admit it if people talking bad about me such playboy, player or even gay. Who cares! Those people are jealous! Why? Because they don't even know about friendship's meaning. It goes to girls as well. Don't look at negative point of view. We need each other, so why people out there keep think negative. You can have these things with anybody regardless of gender and the fact that they are a person of the opposite sex does not mean that a relationship has to be romantic or even physical in nature. A well-rounded secure person is able to have different relationships with different people and get different things out of the relationship without ever deconstructing that relationship down to a gender based stereotype.
In other words not everything in life is about sexual attraction and to suggest that a friendship between a guy and a girl will always be plagued by sexual tensions is naive, sexist and just plain ridiculous!
Yes, yes, yes, guys and girls can be friends. In fact I would be weary of people who don’t have any meaningful politic friendships with people of the opposite sex. Anybody who is comfortable in their own skin won’t choose friends based on something as superficial and unchangeable as gender. If you fall in love to each other, that is a bonus points. If not, take it easy and just make him/her as your good friend. In life, not everything we wish will come true. We must learn to accept faith or destiny.
Most of people outside said, It’s just wrong. Guys and girls can’t relate to each other, they live such different lives. Guys are all about sports and tricks and keeping it real with their boys. Girls are gossips and backstabbers. I can see why a girl may want to be friends with guys because girls are vicious to each other but guys don’t need girls as their friends. If a girl is in your life she’s either a relative or your girlfriend, there’s no need for them anywhere else. Hahaha
So now, judge yourself!
1 comment:
I totally agree. I mean, look at us. & you with Rose & Rozi :-)
Platonic relationships between members of the opposite sex is nothing extraordinary or impossible. It's normal. & you're right, those who don't seem to have friends who are of the opposite gender should get their heads checked pronto!
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